What to do to be loved. It’s not easy to be a woman…

What to do to be loved?

For some reason, women have been born to be more sensitive and more emotional than men. For this reason it is said they need love more than men do. ( the majority, of course. )

You might say they have misunderstood the whole thing, as it’s not about been loved, but about loving.  But I think the need of been loved belongs to the category of protection. When we feel loved, we feel protected. This gives confidence, trust, relaxation and peace.

So, we have an excuse. 🙂 We need to be loved, liked. Admired. To feel protected. And if this doesn’t happen quickly, then we start searching for tricks that can help us. Because if, for example, from the whole class with 20 girls only 5 of them have boyfriends, it means the others do not the necessary standard. It means they are not good enough. But mostly, not beautiful enough.

Why would a girl think she is not beautiful enough?
Well, have you look at the models of today? Not those in the fashion business, but those that appear in each and every commercial? On every website that you open, every market that you walk in, on buildings, on walls, everywhere. Amazingly beautiful women are smiling at you, with immaculate perfect teeth. Telling you… to buy something, of course. And in most cases, the things that they sell are products meant to make you as beautiful as they are.

Or they are famous actresses, with the chance of being born beautiful. Yet, do you really know how happy they were when they were 20 years old? Or 30?

It’s a standard that they promote. Beautiful arched eyebrows, small nose, big colored eyes, big voluptuous lips, and perfect complexion. If you had the misfortune of not been born like this, then you are in big trouble.

This is how marketing changes our lives. It tells us we are not good enough so we need to buy X product, and do X to our body, to fit in this “perfect” society and get loved.

And what do we do? We fall into this traps, of course. And begin a constant struggle against our defects.

1. We modify our face in all possible ways: inject everything into it, tatoo the eyebrows in ways that imitate models’ eyebrows, but do not fit our face, inflate our lips through different painful methods, and especially apply tons of powder and make-up on our face.  And so many others.

2. Keep a strict diet. Because it’s such a shame to be 30 and have a little belly….omg…

3. Exercise. We say it’s for our health. But we are lying. To us and everybody who asks. We exercise only to have a beautifully shaped body. And then, to socialize, to see how other girls are and to flirt with men.

4. We wear terribly uncomfortable high heels. And we do it till we get addicted to them and forget how to walk on sand!

Women are prepared to do ANYTHING to make others love them!

5. Go through surgical procedures to enlarge their boobs with silicon bags. And our back. It needs to be naughty, right?

6. Buy lots of clothes. Lots. Expensive ones. Give money on unnecessary garments that we stop wearing after taking it for 3 times.

7. And mostly, DO STUPID THINGS.
Things that are not habitual to us. Laughing out loud without reason only to draw attention, dancing too provocative, picking on somebody for no reason, obeying to crowd  rules, lying, drinking too much, smoking just to be cool….
Having sex with someone just to show you are not a moron.

Things that you do only to fit it. To be accepted. To be liked and loved. 

Stronger characters realize the trap and don’t fall in. Scientists, morons they form like a different social class, like a different species, and stick with their science. They see it as highly superior to beauty and popularity and act contrary to all the other. Just to show how different they are.

This is defense, as well. Another way of protecting themselves.

And, of course, there are women who have found strong men to lean on. And are very confident in their own naked, un-makeuped power. See Keely Shaye Smith – wife of Pierce Brosnan, Deborra-Lee Furness – wife of Huge Jackman, Priscilla Chan – wife of Mark Zuckerberg and so many others. Who seem to be happy. Well, at least I haven’t read anything about their problems.

It is said, but nobody seems to believe this anymore, that beauty comes from the inside.

What inside, for god sake? When we are tired, stressed out with the job, kids, food, weather, our health, our grandparents and so many other…

And mostly,

how can we show our beautiful inside when we have thin lips and a big nose?

It is hilarious, I know. Painful, too.
But we don’t know one essential thing:

It’s not about beauty. It’s about being pleasant.

Take a look at this picture. It’s a drawing, of course, but it doesn’t represent one beautiful woman face, no princess, no fairy. Only a smiling face. When you look at it, it’s not about what you see, but about what it transmits to you. And this picture transmits happiness.

It’s about the smile and the light in her eyes. Warm, relaxed, confident, positive. It makes you smile back to her. You don’t see the color of the hair, or her eyebrows. Just one delightful girl.

Be like that.

Don’t torture your body unnecessary.  In your life you need only one person to love you like you are the entire universe. To bring you peace. And that person will recognize you after the light in your eyes. And after your smile.

That beauty that comes from the inside is on an illusion. It is not beauty that you see when your look at a cheerful, pleasant person. It’s a state. A feeling. It’s beautiful positive energy. And this makes everybody beautiful. Whether she has hives or not. Or thin lips. Or regular eyes.

I’m not saying that we should not wear makeup. Only that we should keep this into common sense borders, and not make it a priority.
Let’s always be conscious that we are victims of advertising. Of false images created with a purpose.

Those that look only for a picture, are of no interest for you.